Have you ever noticed that as a woman, one of the most common places to give and receive unsolicited praise by strangers is a public restroom. It’s true!! When women enter a public restroom, they are entering a “conversation free-zone” not just allowing them, but inviting them, to remark on a total stranger’s appearance – but only in a positive manner. It is an environment where you will be scrutinized from head to toe and if something is to their liking, you’ll hear about it, or be asked about it. It happens all the time!
Now, just for fun, let’s change the setting – a men’s restroom. A very different place indeed! For guys, there is this unwritten, unspoken rule that must be followed at all times — no eye contact, no talking – get your business done and get out. Can you even imagine the following comments to a total stranger in a men’s restroom:
“Dude, who cut your hair? Dang, it looks good on you!” or
“Man, where d’ya score those super skinny jeans. Those are tight!” or
“Oh, dude, your eyes are like amazing!”
Double-standard? I’d say so.
I remember when our son Tim, who is totally blind, was younger and had to use the bathroom when we were on a family outing. Of course, it was my husband’s duty to accompany Tim to the men’s room but it was done quite unwillingly. You see, Tim, not being able to see, and not yet wise to the unspoken rules, would inevitably announce, “Who’s there?” “What are you doing?” “Are you going to the bathroom too?” if he heard someone washing their hands or coughing or worse yet, farting. Of course, no one ever answered but it sure did clear out the bathroom fast!
Chalk one up for the women!